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Radical Kinship

 

Pastor asked us to read Barking to the Choir by Gregory Boyle.  I have to admit that soon into this read I found myself being critical of the authors writing style.  It wasn’t much further into his story that I was to get my first lesson (of many) on judgement.

Early on in the read Boyle says “we must try to learn how to drop the burden of our judgements, reconciling what the mind wants to separate, the heart should bring together.  This allows us to make ourselves what God wants the world to ultimately be: pale who stand in awe.” I admit that I often judge people too quickly for being different which completely blocks an opportunity to love them, to stand in awe.

Boyle is a Jesuit priest who has devoted his life to working with the inner-city poor and gang members in Los Angeles.  He has developed a company called Homeboy Industries that creates numerous new opportunities for the disenfranchised.  A new start for many that otherwise may be unable to find value in life.  Hearing the numerous stories of struggling ‘homies’ the pain, hurt and hopelessness, Boyle helps the reader (definitely for myself) understand and how critical it is to move away from blame and judgement to make room to love all of God’s children, no matter what.  I have to say the culmination of these diverse stories has left a permanent imprint on my heart and a deeper understanding and need for compassion for all.

Boyle explains that this is what radical kinship requires to find that ‘awe’ experience of another “which empties the room, suddenly there is space for expansive compassion”

Now when I am with someone who is radically different, instead of going to judgement, I try to think how difficult their life has been and is.  Boyle reminds us "living in that kind of precariousness is stressful and navigating it is awe-inspiring”, he continues, "monsters at the margins are constantly under threat and they breathe in shame with every breath.  They understandably think their only recourse is defense and survival.”

When we are no longer fearful and avoidant it is possible to work towards ‘transcendent awe’ to open the heart and fulfill the Lord’s command, “truly I tell you, whatever you did for one of the least of these brothers and sisters of mine, you did for me” Mathew 25:40.  Boyle has helped me see Christ in those that were most difficult for me to truly love.

-Dave S